True Romance: Married Couple Is Dating Their Bridesmaid, A Former Swinger Strays & A Reader Shares His Story

We're back for another edition of True Romance With SeanJo.  Last week we took a look at a man's wife who fell in love with his mistress, a mom who was caught cheating with her daughter's husband, and a woman who found love after becoming a sugar momma.

Talk about getting out of the starting blocks.  That was quite the debut for this weekly column.  This week we have some equally interesting stories of love, including a reader submission that involves not one, but two wives that he went to high school with.

Was it meant to be?  Could there be a throuple in the making?  We'll take a look at that after we get through this week's examples of true romance.  The kind that aren't always obvious on paper.

Some times beds get filled when there's true romance in the air. (Image Credit: Getty)

Remember I want to hear from you.  If you have a true romance story you want to share or if you want to comment on one of the stories, send them my way at sean.joseph@outkick.com.

First up this week is a couple who tied the knot and had their girlfriend in their wedding as one of their bridesmaids.  This wasn't a popular decision with some of their extended family.

A married couple is dating one of their bridesmaids

Angel and Tyler have been together for a little over four years now.  The two met on Tinder, fell in love, and decided about three years in that it was time to try something new.

That something new was a polyamorous relationship with Angel's college friend Sam.  The threesome went on a few dates before eventually deciding to make it a serious relationship.  That was roughly a year ago.

Angel and Tyler are now married.  Sam, who served as a bridesmaid at their wedding, lives with them as their girlfriend.  They seem happy with their arrangement, although not everyone is on board with their lifestyle.

Happy guests throw confetti at a cheerful couple during a wedding reception in the garden. (Image Credit: Getty)

That includes some family members, who dropped out of the wedding party when they found out that the couple's girlfriend was going to be a bridesmaid.  That hasn't slowed these three down one bit.

Tyler said on the show Love Don't Judge about the family that pulled out of the wedding, "Most of the extended family, we don't really talk to them anymore."

Smart.  This is an arrangement that not everybody is going to be able to grasp.  As long as the three of them are having a good time, who is anyone to rain on their parade?

Angel describes being married with a girlfriend like this, "A lot of people are lucky to find one person to love, but we’re lucky enough that we’ve found two."

Angel gets it.  So you lost some extended family along the way.  You get to share the ups and downs of life with a husband and a girlfriend.  Not many get to say that.

Are these three lucky to have found each other?  Are they crazy?  Is this the case of both a little luck and a little crazy?  Let me know what you think at sean.joseph@outkick.com.

A former swinger strays and goes behind his wife's back

A former swinger took to Reddit this week with a classic story about how he and his wife were in an open marriage before his wife decided that she was no longer down with the arrangement.

Not surprisingly, he's had a hard time adjusting to life in a closed marriage and wrote "cheated on my wife with the woman we used to see."

He starts off by explaining how he and his wife were swinging with another couple until the other couple ended up getting divorced.  Call it a wake-up call if you want, but this is when his wife decided it was time to close the marriage and that meant no more hook-ups with the other woman.

Happy couple touching foreheads at home. (Image Credit: Getty)

He admitted that he wanted to continue with the open marriage, but went along with his wife's wishes.  That was until he decided to see the woman from the couple they used to swing with.

"Things were fine for a while, until they weren’t.  I met up with this woman we used to see.  No intentions of sleeping together.  Just to catch up and get back my equipment," the loving husband explains.

"We also were part of the same club.  It’s actually how we met this couple.  Anyway, we talked and caught up.  That led to talking about old times; and well we had sex.  She knows we can’t keep doing it, just as I do."

The straying former swinger says he and the woman agreed not to see each other again.  The exchange was just about sex, and he insists that he loves his wife.  He was struggling with whether to tell his wife about the incident.

Some have gone after the guy in the comments claiming that he couldn’t possibly love his wife since he made plans with and slept with the woman his wife told him not to.  Others advised him to tell his wife so that she could divorce him.

I see this situation a little differently than those trying to tear the poor guy down in the comments.  I think he does love his wife, but he hasn't come to terms with the fact that he also loves this other woman and the swinging lifestyle more.

I'm by no means a relationship expert, but I can see a love story developing from a mile away.  This guy and the woman that used to be in a swinging relationship with him and his wife aren't finished crossing paths.  In many ways, this could be just the beginning.

What do you think here?  Is this guy secretly in love with the other woman?  Should he tell his wife?  Let me know at sean.joseph@outkick.com.

My True Romance Story

• Jonathan M writes:

I’m not sure if this is the kind of tale you’re looking for, but here goes:

My current wife (Wife #2) and I are in our early 50s.  We went on two dates back in high school when we were 16, but it never developed into anything.

Wife #1 (stick with me, I know this may be confusing) also went to high school with us, and was a close friend of Wife #2.  She and I never really interacted in school, but we crossed paths at a wedding five years after graduation.  We began dating and got married a couple of years later.

When we went to pick up our rings at the jewelry store a few weeks before the wedding, we ran into Wife #2 and her then-fiance.  The three of us hadn’t seen each other since graduation.

Fast forward ten years, I’m divorced from Wife #1 and Wife #2 finds me on this new thing called Facebook (she was also divorced.)  We hadn’t seen or talked to each other since that run-in at the jewelry store years before.  We start talking, which becomes dating, and we get married six years later.

Wife #1 did not take the news that her old school chum was becoming Wife #2, but in time she got over it.  It now makes for a funny story when the three of us find ourselves at a family gathering or at the holidays (Wife #1 and I have two children together.)  I still find myself trying to keep these two worlds from intersecting as much as possible, but so far it’s not working.

My daughter is getting married and when the groom’s parents heard this story for the first time, the look on their faces was priceless.

SeanJo:

First, let me say this is definitely the type of story I want to hear about.  This is anything but a boring high school football star who marries a cheerleader and lives happily ever after tale.

Could there be more to this story?  Naturally, after reading this my mind wandered to a possible throuple in the making.  So I asked Jonathan if there's any chance of that ever developing.

I don't feel like I would be doing my job properly if I didn't.  Unfortunately, it's a question we may never know the answer to.  I never received a response from him.

I'm assuming, since it doesn't sound like it has happened yet, that there's not a real chance of it developing, but I'll hold out hope until I get a definitive answer from Jonathan.

Throuple or not, he has his hands full with this juggling act.  Good luck to him and Wife #1 and Wife #2.

Wife caught her mom and husband cheating

• Jonathan M writes:

The whole wife catching her mom with her husband story is so messed up. I couldn't imagine walking in on a family member with my spouse. It goes to show you can't trust nobody these days.

SeanJo:

That's one way to look at it.  But I prefer to look at things through a romantic lens.  Doing so leads me to this question - how does the situation present itself from the mom and husband's perspective?

These two found each other while overcoming some pretty steep odds.  I don't know if they'll live happily ever after, but taking a chance is part of the excitement of venturing down the unknown path we call love.

You never know what you'll encounter along the way or how the relationship will end.  I would, if I was this woman, keep her son-in-law turned boyfriend away from her mom, however.

You know on the off chance that he has a thing for the moms of the women he's dating, and this isn't real love, but some sort of fetish for him.  You can't be too careful when it comes to affairs of the heart.

That's it for this week's edition.  Let me know what you think about any of these tales of true romance and send any of your own that you'd like to share to sean.joseph@outkick.com.