An Unexpected Threesome With My Boyfriend & Best Friend Goes Wrong, Reddit User Explains

Normally, I'd leave this type of post to OutKick Culture Department threesome story expert, SeanJo, but he's off on Tuesdays, so I have to step in and offer some analysis on this threesome story that has rocked the Reddit world. 

In a post over the weekend on the r/amiwrong page, Reddit user u/ulerra wrote about a recent unexpected threesome she had with her boyfriend and her best friend. (U)lerra says feels betrayed by what went down at the best friend's apartment where one thing led to another and everyone was naked and "a full-fledged threesome occurred between us." 

This is a long one, so let's start with the details and then get into ulerra's reaction. 

Was Reddit user ulerra set up by her boyfriend and best friend? Did they already have a threesome planned? You make the call. (Getty Images)

She writes: 

Just the other night, I was hanging out with my best friend and my boyfriend in her apartment. It started out innocently enough with us playing games and watching movies. Then we started playing "never have I ever" and the questions were pretty sexual. She then asked "never have I ever had a threesome" and both me and my boyfriend said no. Her entire vibe changed (to the point it was scary) and she looked at us both. She said "what if we did something crazy?" I kind of laughed because no part of me could’ve ever fathomed what she meant. But then she scooted closer to my boyfriend and started kissing him! He wasn’t stopping her. I just froze. It felt surreal, like a dream/nightmare. There they were making out like it was the most natural thing in the world. I think I had a trauma response of sorts and kind of… tricked myself into thinking this was normal? I can’t explain it. But it’s like my brain wasn’t ready to feel the extent of what was happening so it tricked itself. They started undressing each other and on instinct I undressed myself too. This isn’t a sex sub so I won’t go into the dirty details but a full-fledge threesome occurred between us.

The next morning I woke up at first believing I had dreamt it, but there they were naked on the floor together. I still couldn’t process what the hell occurred so I just kind of ran out. When it finally hit me I had a full fledge breakdown. I’ve gotten calls and texts from both of them asking if I’m okay. I haven’t responded. I can’t respond. I’ve thrown up twice from the intrusive memories. I didn’t want this. Why did I go along with this? Why didn’t I stop it? Why did SHE start it? Questions just keep swimming in my brain.

I don’t know what the hell to do. Last text from my boyfriend was "I hope you aren’t upset, I think that was such a special event in our relationship even though it was insane." He’s knocked on my door and I haven’t opened it.

I have no idea where to go from here. I still love him but I can’t look at him the same I mean I f--king saw his d--k go in and out of my best friend. Not to mention her. I feel like I’ve been betrayed in the most disgusting way even though I let it happen/participated.

Am I right to feel like they did wrong in the worst way?

Kinsey: 

Ulerra, they were already cheating on you. 

The more I hear out of this story, the more it sounds like the alleged Jim Edmonds threesome story where the former Gold Glover had an (ALLEGED) threesome with his then-wife, Meghan King Edmonds, and her friend Kortnie O'Connor. King said years ago that she went along with the threesome "because I thought that's what [Jim] wanted." 

You're damn right Jim wanted it! 

"I wanted to feel as comfortable as possible. We only had one threesome and only once during our marriage and that was with his current girlfriend," Meghan added while also noting that she welcomed the idea of having threesomes early in their marriage because Jim was a "bad boy" who liked to "have fun."

Ultimately, Jim and Meghan divorced, Jim started dating Kortnie and now they're married and Kortnie is a bonus mom to Meghan's kids. 

"Am I right to feel like they did wrong in the worst way?"

Because it's Reddit and users are tasked with asking a question that will get answers, Ulerra is left wondering if she is wrong for feeling like she was wronged. 

No, honey, you're not wrong for feeling that way. 

Imagine how guys feel when their best friends are boning their wives who then get the house, the kids, half of the guy's union pension, alimony, the zero-turn mower and the dog in the eventual divorce. 

The husband is left getting the kids every Wednesday and two weekends per month. Meanwhile, the kids start going on vacations with their ex-wife and the ex-best friend while blowing the ex-husband's money at Dick's Last Resort. 

Meanwhile, some Reddit analysts weren't so easy on Ulerra. 

"Tricked yourself my ass! You wanted to be part of it so you did. Now you regret it, end of story. Don’t blame anyone else for your poor choices," one analyst wrote. 

"I think you are wrong," wrote another.

"You can have regret over doing it but you allowed. You undressed you participated they can’t read your mind you have to be able to say no I am not ok with this but it was no way for them to know in the moment."